Honour Killings or Dishonour Killings?
Today's newspapers again carry horrifying stories of killings supposedly called 'Honour Killings'. The question is what is honourable about these acts? To a mind like mine they seem to be bringing 'dishonour' upon society.
Not delving into specific stories, one would like to focus critically on the reasons behind such gruesome murders. Most of these murders are related to the institution of marriage, specifically inter-caste, inter-religion, same-gotra marriages. And the reasons are sociological. Migration to cities, swallowing up of villages by cities has led to a disintegration of certain customs and traditions which were taken for granted by the earlier generation. Exposure to western culture and changes in life style has brought about a change in the attitude of the younger generation. Working in offices of MNCs one is not bothered with issues of caste or gotra. The choice of a life partner in such cases is governed by emotional and intellectual needs. This is where the gap between the ones working in cities and with MNCs or other firms and those left behind in villages widens and what one can observe is a mental time gap. The latter take upon themselves the task of 'saving' traditions and customs which they feel are 'endangered' due to the influence of the west.
Thankfully the courts have again intervened asking the State Government (Haryana) to ensure that murders do not take place in the name of family or caste or clan honours! But for how long? How long will people lead a frightened life because they have broken some custom or norm accepted by their family?How long will they live under the shadow of fear that one day, their father or uncle or brother will kill them in the most gruesome way possible so as to set an example for others?
What again is needed is a change in outlook and approach. When will the people realize that the same law or rule can not be held true for all? It is not a crime if individual happiness comes before institutional happiness.
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